According to data published by Statista, the number of smartphone users in the US is estimated to reach 222.9 million in 2017. During this time, the number of smartphone users worldwide is forecasted to exceed 2 billion. With this smart device in their hands, the amount of time people spend on social media is constantly increasing. Sadly, with such smartphone penetration, an increasing number of individuals in long-term relationships are also being compelled to compete with their partner’s smartphone for attention. In fact, these devices have become the ‘third wheel’ in most relationships. The once-common conversation in bed amongst couples is now replaced with endless scrolling through social media apps.
Are You in Love with Your Smartphone?
According to a survey published in The Daily Mail, 75% of women admitted that mobile devices were interfering with their love life, ruining their relationship by reducing the amount of time they spend with their partner. The best couples therapists in the US say that with time, it is obvious for individuals to feel less satisfied with their relationship. However, they are allowing technology and these devices to rule their lives and interfere with or interrupt conversations, activities and time with romantic partners. Even if it is done unintentionally for brief moments, people are making their partners realize what they value most, which leads to conflict and negative outcomes in personal life and relationships.
Couples Losing Communication
Why is it that people like to talk more about their relationships on Facebook than they do face-to-face with the person they’re actually in a relationship with? Today people indulge in non-urgent and shallow tasks on smartphones, becoming obsessed over how their lives look to others through the digital glass. So much so that they are forgetting the significance of living in the present moment, while relishing their reality, says Linda Charnes, a leading relationships expert and couples therapist. She further adds that excessive smartphone use drives couples away from each other and becomes the reason for communication breakdown among couples.
Couples should know that intimacy is hard to achieve and responding to every beep on the phone will inevitably come in the way of spending quality time with your significant other. In a romantic relationships, a smartphone should not replace deep-felt and long conversations. Try not to keep your smartphone with you or keep it on silent at times when your partner needs your focus and attention.