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How to Build Confidence

Confidence Paves the Way

Confidence is a cornerstone of personal happiness, healthy relationships, and a strong career. Confidence comes from a foundational belief in your value, which helps to create an optimistic view of your place in the world. While nobody feels confident every day and in every scenario, it is important to carry a general sense of self-esteem and self-worth most of the time.

When you struggle with self-esteem and confidence, it can impact your whole life. You might:

  • Experience depression or anxiety
  • Find yourself in the same bad relationship over and over again
  • Struggle to get promotions or attain a new role
  • Refuse to stand up for yourself to your family or, conversely, struggle to forgive your family
  • Worry that your children will inherit your low self-esteem.
  • Grapple with alcoholism, drug abuse, over-eating, gambling, or other issues of addiction.

You can build confidence through therapy

Much of our self-esteem was built in childhood, in the presence of our family of origin.  When an adult struggles with issues of confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, it's often because they are still operating from beliefs created in childhood that no longer serve them.  Through therapy, we can examine these beliefs, release those that don't serve you, and learn new ways of being.

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What causes low self-esteem? Expand

Most adults who struggle with low self-esteem have false beliefs that were created in childhood. These beliefs keep them doubting their worth and questioning their potential. In therapy, we will examine these beliefs and update them with what we learn about your true worth and abilities.

How does low self-esteem affect your life? Expand

Low self-esteem can affect every part of your life. Without adequate self-worth, it can be hard to have peace of mind, maintain healthy relationships, and develop a satisfying career. In therapy, we will discover and resolve the origins of your lack of confidence. This can provide immediate relief and fertile ground for greater confidence and happiness in your life, your relationships, and your career.

How does low self-esteem affect your relationships? Expand

Self-esteem is our belief in our fundamental worthiness.  When we believe that we are worthy of love, comfort, care, and support, relationships can thrive.

When we question our worth, people tend to react in one of two ways:

  1. For some, a lack of confidence may cause them to cling to others or seek validation and reassurance.
  2. For others, a lack of self-esteem may cause them to react too frequently with defensiveness or anger.

Neither of these reactions is healthy for relationships.

How does low self-esteem affect your career? Expand

Some people assume that all leaders are confident and bold, but many executives and highly regarded professionals struggle with confidence. This exhibits itself in different, and sometimes surprising ways.

  1. For some a lack of confidence can lead to hesitation around creativity and decisiveness.
  2. For others, a lack of confidence can lead to an over-abundance of control at work.

In both cases, greater confidence can help you feel less anxious and more connected and engaged in your work life.  This can lead to greater satisfaction and success.

Can you become more confident through therapy? Expand

Therapy is the ideal environment in which to address low self-esteem and struggles with confidence. Through therapy we explore why you lack confidence, identify false beliefs that are dictating how you feel, and then focus on strengthening how you view yourself and your place in the world.

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I can help you

After 25 years of working with individuals, I know this for sure:  You are worthy of love, full of strength, and have much to offer the world. I know this because ALL people have enormous worth: it's a fundamental aspect of humanity.

But so many people struggle to perceive and acknowledge their own worth. This could be because there have been few role models showing how to be satisfied and grounded. Or it could be because of painful or difficult interactions with others that causes questions of worth.

Therapy is a unique and wonderful opportunity to address these feelings. Perhaps for the first time in your life, you will have the support and direction to examine your false beliefs and re-assert your self-worth.

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What to expect from our work together.

Stage 1 -  We build trust and create a safe place to share your honest and raw feelings.

Stage 2 - We will reconnect with your strengths and vulnerabilities to remind you that you are already worthy

Stage 3 - We will look within to examine the development of your false beliefs

Stage 4 - We will rebuild healthy, authentic beliefs about who you are and your capabilities

Stage 5 - As you learn to operate differently in the world you will experience deeper relationships, greater self-love and increased career success

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1619 Third Avenue, Suite 3 Entrance on 91st Street New York, NY,
10128 212-772-1695     info@lindacharnes.com

I do not accept insurance, but my services are eligible for out of network reimbursement.

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