The coronavirus pandemic has put unprecedented strain on marriages. With most offices shut and people working from home, there seems to be too much time that couples are spending together. Being in close contact with each other continuously and with children at home too, due to school closures, families can start getting on each other’s nerves.
On top of all that, there is the stress of an uncertain economic future and fear of being infected. This has pushed many couples to the edge. In places where the lockdown has been lifted, a surge in the number of divorce applications can already be seen. In fact, in China’s Miluo, there are so many divorce applications that staff members do not even have time to drink water, according to a report on the Miluo City government website.
But there are ways you can ensure that your marriage does not go that route. Here’s how.
Embrace Personal Space
Usually, partners get some time away from each other when they go to work. But that is no longer the case, with everyone being stuck at home. The situation can be even worse for families living in a small space. To overcome this, it is helpful to set some time apart just for oneself. Even 30 minutes of alone time could make a great difference. During this time, we can try meditating, exercising, or just relaxing while listening to music, to help lower stress levels, according to Linda Charnes, a leading psychotherapist in New York.
Align Your Sleeping Times
A surprising yet simple way of maintaining a healthy marriage can be by making sure that both of you go to sleep at the same time. It has been found that couples who have mismatched sleep and wake patterns report higher marital conflict, fewer hours of shared activities, less time having meaningful conversations and rarer involvement in sexual intercourse, according to a report published by Wiley Online Library.
In case you feel the situation is becoming too difficult for you to handle on your own, it is a good idea to seek professional help. If you are worried that seeking therapy would mean stepping out of the home, then you should know that many counselors are offering therapy online during the lockdown. They offer therapy sessions online using video conferencing platforms that are compliant with HIPAA. So, you can be assured of your confidentiality and security as well.
Apart from these, limiting your alcohol intake can also be helpful. It has been observed that during such stressful times, alcohol consumption rises, which can have a negative impact on relationships.