What is premarital counseling?
Premarital counseling or therapy is typically offered by a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) trained in psychotherapy and family systems. Premarital counseling can assist couples in:
- Determining if they should be married
- Preparing them for marriage
- Providing a strong foundation for a long, happy, and healthy marriage
Religious institutions also provide counseling, and some churches and synagogues require premarital counseling before a marriage ceremony can be conducted. By seeking counseling before marriage, couples can intercept many common pitfalls that marriages face.
Why consider seeing a premarital counselor.
Premarital counseling provides a safe and neutral environment to discuss various topics as you look towards building a life together. Through the counseling process, you will tackle areas of conflict, concern, and perhaps learn something new about your partner. Open discussion can illuminate the reasons you wish to get married or address the problems that either one or both of you have about marriage.
What happens at premarital counseling?
Have you thought about premarital counseling but are unsure of what it entails? Before you get married, the value of counseling is in understanding and managing expectations so that both of you are on the same page going into the marriage.
Is this the right person for me?
You have been dating since college. You bought a house together and adopted a puppy. The engagement was inevitable, and now you wonder if this person is right for you. Premarital counseling will address problems and concerns common to couples prior to marriage. The process is structured to uncover and address areas of concern and create a healthy environment for open discussion. The answer to the question, "Is this person right for me?" becomes evident throughout the process.
But the question is not only for 'young couples' to determine if their partner is the right person for them. Premarital counseling is successful with:
- Couples who are entering a new marriage when one or both have been previously married.
- Some couples are aware of issues and concerns and utilize the safety and structure of premarital counseling.
- Long-distance relationships for couples considering marriage.