Problems are inevitable and so is anxiety related to them. And, through life, we each discover our own means of coping with life’s hurdles, of which some mechanisms prove more helpful than others. The important thing to remember is that the capacity to cope is there to be discovered within each one of us.
An article by Forbes suggests that we should perceive problems as an opportunity to test our problem-solving skills, and therefore view problems as a positive experience. However, there are times when these challenges might seem unsurmountable. We might end up feeling alone and helpless, unsure whether anyone would really understand what we are experiencing. Then there are some of us who don’t wish to appear weak by discussing problems that we can’t overcome.
According to an article by Psychology Today, problems usually don’t appear one at a time, and one way to work our way through such problem clusters is through brainstorming with another. In fact, discussing your problem with someone you trust can help you perceive the situation more clearly or in a different way, while also releasing some of the built-up tension, says Linda Charnes, a leading psychotherapist in NYC, while adding that talking can take away the feeling of being alone too.
Talk to Someone You Trust
The key to solving problems is to not keep it to yourself. Not speaking about it only leads to pent-up feelings and tension. Most of the times, all these bottled-up feelings find release in the most unexpected situations, leading to both inappropriate behavior and embarrassment.
Our spouse, parents and friends are the first people we might choose to discuss things with. It gives you a feeling that you are not alone and there are people who understand or empathise with you. Sometimes, they can help you identify options or solutions you hadn’t thought of before.
However, there could be times when you do not wish to disclose certain issues to people you know. Or, these people themselves could be part of the problem. This is a time when you should consider speaking to an objective, third party, preferably someone who will keep your disclosures confidential.
Who is the Right Person?
The first step towards finding a solution to your problem is to find the right person whom you can talk to. Psychotherapy, also known as talk therapy, is one of the best ways to overcome mental distress. Psychotherapists provide help for almost every one of life’s challenges, from family issues to mental health, alcohol addiction, pregnancy, or sexual, emotional and physical abuse.
Psychotherapy provides you a safe space to explore difficult issues and potential solutions for them. You can work through the causes of issues and identify unhelpful thought and behavior patterns and how to change them. So, the next time you feel overwhelmed, consider talking about it as soon as possible.