Couples counseling, practiced using EFT, is roughly 75% effective, says an article on Psychology Today. One of the most crucial phases for any couple is the time before their first counseling session. Before the date for the session arrives, you and your partner may feel disconnected or dissatisfied with each other.
So, what should you do to make sure that things don’t turn even worse? Here are some things you can do to prepare for your first couples counseling session.
Dive into Introspection
Whenever you face a situation where you are at a loss for words with your partner do this and ask yourself some basic questions:
What are the possible ways in which I understand my relationship issues?
Are there any other ways to explain it, even if they are opposite to my stance?
What can I see if I look at things from a different angle?
Through introspection, you will be able to sort your conflicts in a realistic and goal-oriented way. This will help uncover the root cause of the problem and remove it, leading to a more rewarding relationship, says an article by Linda Charnes, a leading couples counselor in NYC.
Avoid Further Damage
Aim to avoid any unhealthy patterns of interaction that can create stress in your relationship. As it is, there has been enough conflict. So, every exchange you have with your partner should not pile up on the existing set of problems. For instance, if you are in a habit of yelling at each other, try to lower and soften your tone. Also, if you have been sleeping in different rooms, respect each other’s right to privacy.
Give Time to Self-Care
This means making choices that help you feel better, both physically and emotionally. The road to recovery is going to be a tough one, so it is important that you are mentally and physically prepared. You can do this by:
- Ensuring a well-balanced diet
- Getting adequate rest
- Exercising regularly
- Taking time out to do the things that you like, such as watching movies, listening to music, reading, etc.
- Get support from other relationships, such as friends and family.
Couples who have attended couples therapy sessions show high levels of satisfaction, with more than 97% of the surveyed people saying that they got the help they needed, says an article by GuideDoc Health.
So, while couples therapy is a go-to option for rebuilding your relationship, you also need to do some homework to make the most of it.